Treat yo self: Three takes on self-care

 
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Self-care has become a bit of a buzzword in a last few years, and for good reason. Yet it’s easy to become overwhelmed by the latest wellness trends (keto butter coffee, anyone?!) and forget the simplicity that self-care is all about. Self-care is any activity we do deliberately to take care of our mental or physical health. A great first step is to reflect on what works for you. Are you someone who prefers to be alone or with friends? Do you like yoga or tennis? Reading or watching netflix? Tea or coffee? Self-care is all about finding what you love to do and creating a routine that is guaranteed to get you back on track when you’re feeling a bit lost or out of sorts. It’s not about meditation and mindfulness (although that might be your jam - please carry on!), it’s about sleep, keeping healthy, doing activities you love, and not worrying what others think of you - you may be amazing but you can’t control the thoughts of others! We speak to three locals about their self-care...


flick voss

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Flick is owner of The Attic in Market Harborough, a dress agency specialising in lush ladies fashion, from high street to designer. She spends her days playing with clothes and trying to make women feel fabulous no matter their style, size or budget. Lover of dogs, Cinnabuns and weird old things. Owner of 2 weird & old dogs.

What advice would you give your teenage self?

If I were to go back in time to speak to my teenage self, I would give her such a harsh talking to! As a teenager I never really knew what my life plan was, and I never really felt like I fit in when my friends had their life mapped out in front of them. I’d tell her that is ok, not everyone follows the same path, if we all did it would be boring! You don’t have to live your life just to tick the next box. And more importantly – it’s ok not to want that. Living life on a weird and winding road is totally ok, even if you get lost every now and then!

What are your tips for someone shopping with a new figure?

When someone’s outside changes, it can often take a while for the inside to embrace that & get used to a new shape. Shopping and dressing for a new shape, size or life can be more of a mental battle than a physical one. The best place to start is the foundations: having properly fitting underwear fitted by someone who can give you advice on styles and shapes that make you look and feel great.

I’d also advise getting an idea of styles and silhouettes that you like so you can begin to develop your own style. For this I love shopping preloved, whether you’re shopping in a vintage shop, charity shop or at an agency like The Attic, you get the chance to really see what your taste is because of the variety. Often we are force fed the same trends, colours and shapes that are in every shop on the high street, by shopping new-to-you it gives a chance for your own likes and dislikes to become apparent! Fashion is all about individuality and creativity – so it’s a great way to create a wardrobe that you look forward to delving into every day.

Remember that shopping is fun! Don’t be put off by sifting through rails of different items, unknown brands or if something you like isn’t your size – just try on some stuff you like, if it fits its meant to be and if it doesn’t put it back! It’s that easy! My rule is that if I love it, I know how I will wear it and it fits, then its mine!

Why is having a professionally fitting bra important?

Having regular bra fittings with someone who knows what they’re talking about should be just as important as a decent skincare routine or getting your hair trimmed. Small differences really can make a BIG difference. Knowing which type of bra to wear under what and which shape is best for you can completely transform an outfit. Plus it doesn’t have to be the cold, instore, measuring-tape experience we all fear, finding some fabulous new undies can be fun and exciting. There are so many choices and styles to choose from, you can now express yourself as much in a bra as you can in an outfit!

Katie from Weir Wonderful Fit makes bra fitting fun and comfortable for all women - regardless of their shape or size. She also hosts ‘braties’ where you can get fitted at home, over a bottle of bubbles with your girls round, no pressure, no stress, just more confidence!

 
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KATIE FROM WEIR WONDERFUL FIT

 

What do you do to self-care?

For me self-care can be something as small as having a long hot bath, trying out a new face mask, moisturising myself until my face looks like the back of a spoon and playing some xbox. I think when you don’t often get a chance to self-indulge in this way, it becomes a real treat and great opportunity to clear the mind. Then every morning before work I put on a sexy AF set of underwear; it is really hard to have a bad day knowing you have the most frilly kickass undies on that make you feel invincible.

Day to day I think we could all practice a bit more self-care by not depriving oneself. If you want a biscuit, have a biscuit! It won’t kill you, don’t beat yourself up about little indulgences, everything in moderation, don’t live your life on a diet.

“There were people on the titanic who said no to pudding” – I genuinely think about that every day!

@theatticdressagency

Ryan sapstead

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Ryan is a Personal Trainer and Body Transformation Coach based at Snap Fitness in Market Harborough.

What advice would you give your teenage self?

The best piece of advice I wish I could have given myself as a teen would be to not stress over what other people think. There’s a lot of negativity especially throughout school and no matter what shape I was, from being average to a kid who trained in the gym in his spare time, kids are savage. People will always find ways to put you down regardless of what you do, don’t let it get to you and just enjoy being yourself. Do what gives you joy, fuck what other people think (can I say fuck? Ah well, fuck it!)

Do you think there is enough focus on male body positivity in the media?

I’d say when it comes to men being comfortable in their own skin, not really. The media tends to give the average male a slightly unrealistic image of how their body should look. There’s going to be a lot of comparison to celebrities who are in great shape, but equally so, it’s not often male celebs bodies’ are ‘shamed’ and spoken about negatively like the tabloids tend to with women. Regardless, there’s too much negativity in the tabloids with both genders, but that’s another topic.

What would you like to see more of regarding male self love and body positivity?

It’s great to be proud of the body you’re in, but at the end of the day health is the priority, especially for myself. People should be more focused on looking after their bodies and care more about what’s happening on the inside rather than on the outside. Looking good makes you feel great and will help raise your self esteem don’t get me wrong, but the priority should be your overall health. If you’re overweight but you love your body and that makes you happy that’s great, good for you! But if you’re not looking after or even aware of what’s going on under the hood, how much do you really love yourself?

How do you manage attainable fitness goals?

It’s all about finding a good routine that fits in with your lifestyle. If you have a long working day, a family or particular other factors that may seem a slight setback for things like your fitness and general health; but in reality your family, your sedentary job etc should be all the more reason to exercise. The reality is, 1 hour is only 4% of your day so what’s really stopping you? Exercise doesn’t have to be in a gym, it’s all around you.

What do you do to self-care?

I find the best routine I have is waking up early every morning regardless of work or not and having a great workout just sets me up well for the rest of the day. I get huge satisfaction knowing I’ve worked out and I’m ready to smash the rest of the day before 90% of the population are up and out of bed. A well balanced diet also doesn’t go a miss, along with a wide range of sports and skincare supplements. Oh and the odd trip to the tanning beds once in a while (shhh!)

@ryansapsteadpt


Leah Giles

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Leah Giles, 22, is a fashion student from Leicestershire. She’s also a fitness enthusiast and a self proclaimed foodie who loves to travel and explore new places, with Bali at the top of her list!

What advice would you give your teenage self?

If I had to give my teenage self some advice it would definitely be to be more confident and to not worry about what everyone thinks. Which is a lot easier said than done, but as you get older you realise that everyone has self doubts, insecurities and fears of doing the wrong thing. So always be true to yourself and trust your own path.

How do you set and achieve your fitness goals?


Start small and gradually build up, set a goal that is specific and measurable so you can constantly keep yourself motivated by monitoring your own success. This can be anything from walking more, starting a new gym or doing a fitness class. Make sure you plan ahead so you can accomplish your fitness goals and squeeze them into your daily routine so there are no excuses that you don’t have the time.

How important is having the right gym kit?

The right gym gear is essential! The amount of times I’ve been to the gym in an uncomfortable sports bra or see through leggings and it has literally just made me want to walk straight back through the door. If you find the right gym gear that supports you, compliments your figure and is comfortable it will make you feel more confident and with this mindset you’re much more likely to smash your workouts!

What do you think about body confidence?

Body confidence is so important, I really do believe in women empowering each other in all aspects of life! When I first met Katie in our local coffee shop I was so inspired by her confidence and enthusiasm and how uplifting she was to be around and it made me think- how wonderful would the world be if every girl encouraged each other like this. That’s why I’m so excited to be a part of Katie’s cup size clique- every girl needs to know they are beautiful just the way they are.

What do you do to self-care?

I love to exercise not only for my body but more importantly for my mind. If I’m stressed or need to let off some steam then I’d definitely hit the gym or go for a swim to collect my thoughts and get my endorphins going. But I also believe that eating Whole Foods and a balanced diet really helps with my wellbeing and makes my head clearer with a more positive mindset.

@leahhgiles

@leahhollyfitness



 
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katie weir

KATIE WEIR, AKA THE BRA QUEEN, IS A HAPPY, VEGAN, CURVE LOVING, CUP SIZING GURU. SHE HAS WORKED IN THE LINGERIE INDUSTRY FOR 10 YEARS FOR BRANDS INCLUDING FREYA AND CURVY KATE. HER PASSIONS ARE BOOBS, BRAS AND BODIES, AND SO EDUCATES WOMEN ON A DAILY BASIS ABOUT BODY CONFIDENCE AND POSITIVITY, LEAVING THEM WITH UPLIFTED SPIRITS AND BUSTS!

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CHLOË GREEN

EDITOR OF THE WHISTLE